December 15th, 2009

Absence & Sadness

Share Button

Steve & I have experienced the death of a very good friend and father to one of J1’s closest buddies.  It was sudden and tragic.  There are simply no words to express our grief and sorrow for our friend Sarah and her two children.

I cannot possibly blog about new yarns, projects, etc.  What little enthusiasm Steve & I can muster we have to use for our friend, her kids and our boys.

There will be a post next week about the year-end sale but beyond that I probably won’t blog again until after the holidays.

There is so much I could say about our friend Jamie but I think simplicity is best.  He was a good man and loved by so many people for so many reasons, but most of all by Sarah, JP and Peyton.   Please keep them in your thoughts.


38 Responses to “Absence & Sadness”

  1. kat Says:


  2. Margie Says:

    My sympathies for your loss. You are all in my thoughts.

  3. Sandy Says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you all and your friend and her family.

  4. iknitalone Says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you all.

  5. knitventures Says:

    Oh, Kathy. I’m so sorry. What a horrible thing for you all to be going through (especially at this time of year). You’re right. There are no words. Just my sincerest condolences.

  6. Liz Says:

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. Sending thoughts and hugs.

  7. bitterpurl Says:

    I’m so sorry Kathy, sending you hugs

  8. Rosemarie Says:

    Losing someone around the holidays can be so very difficult. One of my high school students lost his Dad last week and wasn’t even able to go to his funeral. He tried to put on a good front, but he broke down and cried when one of the students handed him a sympathy card. His parents divorced 4 years ago and his Dad was now living in Florida. I could feel his pain. As your own children are still young, they will definitely need more of your love and attention. I am sure that eveyone will understand. Please extend my sympathies to your friend’s family.

  9. rilander Says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you, Steve, and the family of your friend.


  10. rilander Says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you, Steve and the family of your dear friend.


  11. justplainbeth Says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss. ((hugs))

  12. Kim Werker Says:

    Oh, Kathy. I’m so sorry to hear about such a tragic loss. My thoughts and love to you and Steve, to your boys, and to your friends.

  13. TravelingAnn Says:

    Oh, I’m sorry.

  14. ReneeinCA Says:

    for those who want to know more of the story:

    I am praying for all concerned. We can wait for other news of yarn and the like. Be well.

  15. KathyElkins Says:

    Thanks for sharing that link ReneeRico – I hadn’t read that and it’s right on the mark.

  16. KathyElkins Says:

    Thanks Kim. It’s been so hard.

  17. Rachel H Says:

    I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss.

  18. ColorJoy Says:

    I lost my father suddenly when I was 14 and he was 40. I’m 51 now and it is no less a tragedy, though we have learned to live without him by now. I still talk of him almost every day. He was a big part of my learning who I was. I hope the family finds a way to keep remembering and talking about their own beloved.

    Mourning comes in waves. They can not be scheduled. You hear a song and you lose it, and that’s how it goes. You can’t “get it together” on a schedule (I have a friend who was given 3 days off for her 12 yr old son’s death… this society is just without a clue).

    Good for you to give yourself permission and time to absorb the bigness of this. And remember, any time you cry or hurt, it is a tribute to the quality of the relationship you had with your friend. I tell my Goddaughter that when I go, I hope she cries a lot. Not that I wish anyone pain, but I wish to have impacted her so much that losing me will not go unnoticed.

    And your own beliefs and experience will differ from mine. I’ve lost two people suddenly, and young. Been there. Different but the same. Be gentle with yourself…

  19. colorjoy Says:

    I have 3 browsers and all give me a “enable cookies” error message when I go to that page. Even though I’ve enabled. Sigh.

  20. Debbi Says:

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Please know that you are in our hearts and prayers. Hugs to all of you….

  21. ReneeinCA Says:

    Not sure why the problem with the enabled cookies. google “Jamie Mullins Amherst MA” and hopefully you get the article.

  22. Allegra Wermuth Says:

    so, so sad. i am sorry for your loss. my thoughts are with you and your friend’s family.

  23. zzwhitejd Says:

    I am so very sorry to hear about this. There is never a good time, but times of otherwise joy throw it into such stark contrast. What a tragedy. I will be praying for both your and their family.

  24. jaz Says:

    Daily Hampshire Gazette requires a subscription to access online content. I haven’t been able to find anything on Masslive about it…

  25. Ellie Says:

    Kathy – I’m so sorry to hear of your friend’s death – I read the story and it brought tears to my eyes. There are some things that are just so unfair and unfathomable. Why? Why? It’s just awful.

  26. sandiwiseheart Says:

    Oh, Kathy. You, your family, and Sarah, JP, and Peyton are in my heart today. Take care of you and yours, and if there is anything, ANYTHING I can do for you, please let me know. –Sandi Wiseheart

  27. Kell Says:

    I’m so sorry for your and your friends’ loss. Sending hugs and thoughts of support.

  28. knit4girls Says:

    I am so sad for your loss. I wish you, Steve, and your boys peace in your hearts; and hope that the special memories you have of your friend comfort you as you journey through this difficult time.

    Traci Frederick

  29. Karin Maag-Tanchak Says:

    I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your dear friend.
    And my all means, find a guest blogger or otherwise take your time!!!

  30. Karin Maag-Tanchak Says:

    I meant “by all means”,

  31. Conni Says:

    So sad, Kathy. I read the newspaper article, and it is very apparent that this man touched a great many lives. I didn’t even know him, of course, but I had to smile at the description of your friend. How blessed you all were to have known him.

  32. Deborah (aka Mt. Mom) Says:

    No worries about blogging — you go do what you need to do.

  33. JM Massi Says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your son’s friend’s family and yours are in my prayers.

  34. rfargnoli Says:

    Dear Kathy,
    So strange, I was thinking about you today, thinking that I haven’t seen your cheerful tweets etc and I thought something was wrong. I’m so sorry for you and your family and of course your friend’s family. I will keep you all close in my thoughts and prayers.

  35. kaystir Says:

    I so sorry to hear about your loss, take care of you and yours as best as you can.

  36. yolan Says:

    so sorry about the loss of your friend. i lost my dad xmas eve several years ago,though not tragically, still a loss .an emptiness always follows me around this time of year. however, happy memories will always be there and they help with my coping as they will with yours. children are very resilient and will get through this with faith and the support of people like you and your family. i will remember you all in my xmas prayers.

  37. Theresa Says:

    I am so sorry, Kathy. Your friend’s family and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

  38. Alice Says:

    So sorry to hear about your loss! Also the phrase “friend . . . kids . . . boys” is heart-wrenching. So much sadness, so difficult. Many, many hugs. Much, much sympathy for all those sorrowing.

Leave a Reply