I am excited to welcome Bruce Weinstein to the WEBS Blog with a Guest Post. Bruce is the author of the recently released Knits Men Want: The 10 Rules Every Woman Should Know Before Knitting for a Man. I know what you’re thinking – been there done that on the boyfriend knitting theme. I’m telling you to just push those preconceived notions aside. This is a lovely book with 10 faboo patterns and interesting essays. Plus the photography was all done by Jared Flood so naturally the book is gorg-e-ous.
Given that this topic has been written about previously, I asked Bruce to give me his perspective on “The Boyfriend Sweater Curse”. He was kind enough to oblige.
The Boyfriend Sweater Curse Explained.
It’s all about hormones and overheating. Simple science and few smart choices can keep this from happening to you.
It’s a very common complaint. You knit your guy a sweater and then the relationship is over. You never see him again, and sadly too, you never see the sweater.
So here’s the theory. Men sweat more than women do. It’s a given scientific fact. And on top of that, men have more apocrine more apocrine sweat glands which are the kind that cause us to stink, and emit pheromones. You know, those chemicals that help us attract the opposite sex (and sometimes the same sex). So it’s no wonder that most men don’t like heavy sweaters. We sweat too much in them.
Now, along comes the first hand knitted gift of a heavy wool sweater. The boyfriend starts sweating even thinking about wearing it. Then he puts it on and basically transforms into a pheromone factory. This causes lots of other women (and sometimes men) to pay attention to him. It’s hard to ignore adoring looks from all sides. And sometimes, just sometimes, that might be the undoing of the relationship.
I think in 99% of the cases this scientific perspective carries a lot of merit. Steve is the 1% exception. The man embraces a Lopi sweater like it’s a lace-weight cashmere wrap. He has the scratchiest of scratchy, heavy, wooly sweaters you can imagine. They are gorgeous – him mom and grandmother(s) knit him sweaters that J1 and J2 will inherit and their children will inherit.
At the end of the day, the debate over the “Boyfriend Sweater Curse” will live on as will Bruce’s book. Be sure to check it out next time you are at WEBS or your LYS.
Thanks you Bruce for taking the time to join us here on the WEBS Blog!
P.S. Stewart, Tabori & Chang, publishers of Bruce’s book are running a sweepstakes over on their blog. It’s pretty cool stuff so check it out!